Saturday, February 23, 2013

Well I should have updated this a long time ago, but these past 2 years have been particularly trying. I loved living in Alaska, but am  now back in Las Vegas. Alone. It seems my spouse of 19 years decided I was "useless" and can no longer waste time on me with my medical challenges. He matter of factly informed me that I had no reason to be depressed, if I loved him I wouldn't be depressed, and if our roles were reversed daily full body pain for years on end wouldn't bother him. He'd suck it up and not let it change him. In short, he left. At least he agreed to not divorce so I could keep much needed medical insurance....wait, after I went to visit my parents this last summer, it was conveyed through my oldest child that I was not to return to AK because my "husband" couldn't afford 2 households. Obviously I have't been able to work, so I was suddenly living with my parents.

They lost their jobs due to a corporate take over and were planning to move to Vegas and the house they own there (the one that my "husband" led everyone to believe he purchased). I helped by packing their house over several months, because I have limited energy and lots of pain. We drove out and my mom and I got settled (dad is still getting the Jersey house in order to sell). After finding at least half the things that had been put in storage prior to moving to AK missing and/or broken in the garage (my "husband" had asked some of his "friends" to move the stuff from storage to the house garage when my folks decided not to rent it out and said "husband" couldn't afford the monthly storage bill anyway) I was devastated  It appears that family heirlooms along with regular things were stolen by people I know. The "friends" of his were rightfully unhappy that they had to move all that stuff with no compensation, so I guess they helped themselves.

Next blow was receiving divorce papers via email. He wants child support for our 15 year old (our 18 year old moved out almost as soon as he turned 18 just to get away from him). He won't be providing any medical coverage, alimony, nothing. He says he is keeping the debt, but that isn't anything. It is a significant amount, true, but he was planning on declaring bankruptcy before he left me, so honestly, he isn't losing anything there. Because he is there and my son is there, I would have to get an attorney in AK to fight this. I have no income, so I am SOL. He also sent a few of my personal things without padding them at all. The box arrived shredded and everything inside was broken. All of my things are up there and in the divorce decree he is saying whoever has what physically now will stay that way. I get none of my things back. Nothing.

There have been additional issues to cope with, but these are the major ones affecting me on an ongoing basis. This is why I haven't been updating, or present on facebook, etc. Every time I try to regain my feet, he pulls the rug out again. I suppose I should change the  name of this blog since I no longer reside in an asterisk state, simply Sin City. Any ideas for new name are welcome :-)

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